After discovering the existence of an affair, feelings will be running very high and recriminations will abound. Wanting to bring an end to angry scenes, tears and threats, many couples attempt to smooth things over and live with
the situation. They may find that their relationship has become lacking in trust for a long time to come if not forever afterwards. It is possible for an affair to happen even in a good marriage. Causes might be a feeling of lack of interest or affection from a partner, an addiction to sex or romance or a search for power. The affair can bring feelings of shame or exist without guilt.
After the shock of discovery, the partner who has been betrayed often wants to know the details of the infidelity and will embark on a continuing search for signs of further betrayal. It is at this point that many couples call it a day, but if a couple have decided to stay in the relationship it is possible to rebuild trust gradually. Couples must first take personal responsibility for what has happened. With willingness and guidance they can learn to communicate their needs to each other in a better way.